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By Judy Blake on 5/28/2011 10:06 AM
I can't begin to tell you how much I have worked on impulse control with Ryan.  Since he was a toddler, I've pointed out appropriate behaviors and constantly worked with him in hopes of helping him.  Has there been progress?  Absolutely.  But there are those moments of regression and it's difficult to handle.

I know that it isn't the end of the world and I try to keep these things in perspective.  We were at a popular restaurant where you order at the counter and then the waiter brings your food to the table.  I had been to this place a couple of times before but it had been so long, I didn't remember the details of their menu.  Ryan had never been there before but I assured him they had bbq sauce.
By Judy Blake on 5/26/2011 5:53 PM
Oh, the joy of finals.  That wonderful time when you have your last chance to help your child pull up their grades.  This is our time.

In trying to ask Ryan about the exams, I am usually met with a blank stare or "I'm fine".  Fortunately, living in Houston, I can go online and see his grades.  Clearly, his grades could be better.  I have always told him that as long as he tries his best, this is what matters.  But like any kid, he needs help.  Whether or not he has special needs, most kids need help being quizzed or reviewing notes.  While I am college educated, I swear I never learned what he is being taught in school.  It seems so much harder than what I had.  But I try my best. 

This Memorial Day weekend we'll enjoy some activities.  But we'll also spend time studying together.  Hopefully, my grades (oops, I mean his grades) will improve.  Wish us luck....
By Judy Blake on 5/18/2011 5:40 PM
Is that a big deal?  To Ryan, it is!  Like most products you buy for a limited time, the company sends reminders so you don't let your protection lapse. 

Norton began sending messages to Ryan more than 60 days before the protection was to expire.  And the anxiety begins.  I was busy at the time and told him we'd eventually take care of it.  In some ways, I felt badly because I knew it bothered him that I didn't renew right then.  I just wasn't in the mood to shell out more money for something I knew I had more time to use.  Fortunately, he let it go.

And then he receives another message - the anxiety comes rushing back.
By Judy Blake on 5/15/2011 4:35 PM
I am SO happy to report that Ryan actually had a nice time with her new group!  When I picked him up, he actually had a smile on his face.  I was thrilled because that means that the next time they have an event, I will be signing him up. 

The director was so funny.  She told me that when she asked Ryan if he had a good time, he replied "not bad".  We both laughed and were perfectly fine with "not bad".  We both knew that was a major milestone for Ryan.  Usually, he'll tell people "no thank you" - meaning that he doesn't want to return.  I know she scored a lot of brownie points when she had hot dogs for lunch and brownies for dessert.  That's a real selling point for Ryan to return to your events. 

By Judy Blake on 5/13/2011 1:24 PM
Tomorrow, Ryan is joining other special needs kids for a youth group event called "Yachad".  The organization pairs kids like Ryan with typically developing kids.  The director was fabulous.  The program was from Friday night to Saturday night but she is allowing me to drop off Ryan for just Saturday during the day.  It is new for Ryan and I didn't want him to be overwhelmed.  She will even have hot dogs for lunch!!!!  I know that will win a lot of brownie points!
By Judy Blake on 5/12/2011 5:15 PM
You would think that at 16 years old, I wouldn't be concerned about haircuts these days.  I take Ryan to a neighborhood place where the ladies are very sweet.  Ryan dreads haircuts and would only get them twice a year if possible.  I ask him "Does it hurt?"  Of course, the answer is "No."  I think it's just the fact of the hair falling on him and even though he wears a cape, he worries that some hair might fall through.

When we went, the two women there didn't look familiar to me.  I don't know why but they didn't.  I was nervous because with any new people, I always want to explain that he has special needs.  I never know what will come out of his mouth.  When we were there a few months earlier, he said to the lady cutting his hair "Are you insane?!?!"
By Judy Blake on 5/8/2011 8:17 AM
I wish every mom out there a fabulous day! May it be filled with breakfast in bed, someone to clean the house for you, a leisurely lunch, an afternoon nap and a wonderful dinner with your family. I realize you have a better chance of winning the lottery than having the day I just described. I hope you at least have a terrific day knowing that you are an amazing mom.
By Judy Blake on 5/7/2011 10:19 AM
We’ve tried several in the past but they’ve been short lived. One group had a shortage of kids, another one was discontinued because the instructor moved away, and another one was not the best mix of kids for Ryan. I now have renewed hope! We’re going to start in the summer and it meets once a week. I’ll keep you posted and looking forward to a great experience for Ryan!
By Judy Blake on 4/29/2011 1:14 PM
After speaking at National Disability Awareness Day, my son’s Health teacher approached me and asked me to speak to her class. I was very excited as this was another opportunity to reach more students. Ryan knew that I was speaking to his class – his teacher and I agreed that we didn’t want him present and feel uncomfortable. He went to visit another class which was fine with him.
By Judy Blake on 4/29/2011 1:12 PM
One of the students at my son’s high school asked me to speak to the students. It was “Disability Awareness Day” and they were having a few speakers talk about their experiences with those with special needs. I jumped at the chance!
What a great summer!
Many thanks to Outback Steakhouse!!!!!
There are those moments in life.....
Another field trip made possible....
The chicken sandwich tragedy....
Name that teacher.....
How empathetic would you be?
Going home already?
Not bashful this time - make yourself at home....
Adopting??? What do you mean???
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